Meet Victoria Crystal

Transforming Life through Self Influencing Kindness

After several traumatic events struck in quick succession, my connection to and understanding of life was shattered. Though I managed to piece together what seemed like a functional existence, the foundation beneath it was brittle. When tragedy struck again, that fragile foundation crumbled. I lost valuable parts of my Self as it fell.

The core sense of identity that had once anchored my understanding of the world—and my place in it—was gone. In its place was an unrelenting emotional pain, born from misfortunes that unfolded during pinnacle and irreplaceable chapters of my life. I felt as though it was all my fault. I was a failure. And for more than a decade, these thoughts shaped and dominated my relationship with life. I was consumed with relentless regret.

My heart was broken, and my mind demanded answers. I wrestled with questions that seemed impossible to resolve: What had I done wrong? Did I deserve this devastation? Why did this happen to me? The silence that followed was both profound and suffocating. And while a lot of people tried to help, I couldn’t find a way to recover. I spent years wandering through life, fractured and disconnected from the person I once was, uncertain of how to move forward.

Desperate for a way out of the depression that had taken hold, I searched for answers wherever I could find them. I tried every cure that seemed promising and explored healing modalities with merit. Until somewhere in the midst of this cycle, I discovered a way to turn inward. I began to feel what was there to feel—and this natural response to my experience allowed me to gently let the pain go. I noticed that when I honored the subtle signals from my body—moments of tension, discomfort, or requests for relief—the emotional strain began to lift.

Present-moment awareness of my thoughts and physical sensations became a guiding light. Bit by bit, I rebuilt trust with my Self through compassion. These quiet discoveries became the foundation of the Self Influencing Kindness (SIK) process—a simple yet transformative practice that reshaped my life and now helps others to do the same.

Self Transformation Influencer

A Self Transformation Influencer is a guide and catalyst who empowers individuals to cultivate a meaningful, compassionate, and transformative relationship with their Self. Unlike conventional influencers or coaches who often emphasize external achievements (which is fine it that's what you want), a Self Transformation Influencer focuses on:

1. Inner Mastery Over External Metrics:
   Helping individuals harness their inner kindness, resilience, and authenticity as the foundation for lasting growth, rather than chasing superficial goals or societal expectations.

2. Empowered Self Leadership:
   Encouraging people to take ownership of their journey by trusting their inner wisdom and intuition, fostering sustainable change that aligns with their unique values and purpose.

3. The Art of Being Who I Am Over Doing What I Can:
   Teaching that transformation begins with embracing and honoring who you are, not just striving for what you can accomplish. This process prioritizes a state of harmony with the Self as the path to a greater external change.

4. Compassion-Centered Transformation:
   Anchoring growth in Self kindness and Self acceptance, making the process gentle yet profoundly impactful. This approach goes beyond traditional motivational tactics, focusing instead on nurturing the whole person.

5. Holistic Integration:
   Recognizing the mind-body connection as a critical aspect of transformation, this approach aligns mental and physical well-being on the journey toward wholeness. By pairing thought with feeling, it opens the door to new and transformative emotional experiences.

6. Catalyst for Authenticity:
   Supporting individuals in uncovering their unique gifts and truths, inspiring them to live with integrity and share their authentic selves with the world. At work, at home, and in play.

The Mission

My mission is to empower individuals to cultivate compassionate relationships with their Self, creating lives grounded in kindness, trust, and the resilience to consciously choose the life they desire—every single day. Through the Self Influencing Kindness (SIK) process, I am committed to igniting a movement of Self kindness and transformation that begins within each sovereign individual, celebrating our uniqueness, and radiates outward to shape a more compassionate and unified world. One choice, one breath, one step at a time.

The Vision

My vision is a world where every individual nurtures a compassionate relationship with their Self, recognizing their uniqueness as a source of strength, connection, and a valuable contribution to the world. Through inner transformation, we create a ripple effect of deeply rooted trust, kindness, and resilience, uniting diverse hearts and minds to shape a global community founded on understanding and compassion.