How to Let Go of Fear: Creating a New Pattern

Fear shapes the way we experience the world. It can be a disruptive force—like glass shattering in the midst of a beautiful scene. The air stills. What could have been is now lost. Left in its place are scattered shards of danger, each demanding attention. A path that once was, exists no more.

Fear can do this to our lives.

But there is something we can do. We can learn a new pattern—one that gathers the scattered pieces of our Self and restores sovereignty, safety, and choice.

I come to you not with an idea, but with a tangible process you can use.

Within each of us, there is more than one mind. There is the mind that thinks, the mind that feels, and the mind that craves—each operating from a distinct center of awareness: the brain, the gut, and the heart.

And beyond these, there exists an even deeper source of knowing—one that transcends rational thought, fear, or desire. A superconscious connection, granting access to an awareness beyond the constraints of our current reality. It is the part of us that holds space for our individual and sovereign journey, while maintaining a direct connection to the whole of Creation.

Today we explore an understanding that helps unify these three separate awareness centers so they can work in harmony. When our thoughts, in tandem with what we feel, hold space for what we truly desire, we take the first step toward wholeness. And begin reconnecting to greater consciousness.

Step One: “Yes, I choose to naturally feel good.”

The understanding of this first step continues to evolve in ways I could not have comprehended when it first came to me. It is one simple yet incredibly structured goal: to align all areas of awareness and all aspects of life within a single sentence.

“Yes, I choose to naturally feel good.”

• “Yes” is an alignment of willing openness to what is about to become.

• “I choose” is a statement of Self sovereignty.

• “Feel good” is the simple yet profound goal, capable of restructuring every aspect of our life.

• “Naturally” is how this goal will be realized.

“Yes, I choose to naturally feel good.”

We have been raised in a system that actively suppresses our natural instincts and intuition. From an early age, we are placed in classrooms, required to sit still and focus on one individual. And day by day, we are systematically taught to ignore our innocent and innate cravings. Those little signals asking us to know and express who we are.

We are not allowed to speak with our friends, wiggle, stretch, or release the abundant energy coursing through our veins. We can’t relieve ourselves when nature calls, eat when our gut rumbles, or curiously lean in with wonder to whatever it is our heart craves. Instead, we are taught that when we do, we have done something bad.

Our ability to choose from a naturally intuitive space has been silenced, if not taken away. But with practice, we can reclaim this ability—learning to hear our own knowing again, trusting it, and allowing it to guide us forward.

Was a system to silence us put in place intentionally? I don’t know. But does it really matter? Because humanity as a whole is forever more powerful than the machinations of any group.

Yes, the systems need to change. But we cannot change it using the same mindset or framework society currently has in place. We must change as individuals first, standing strong in our ability to naturally feel good.

A Moment of Transparency

I have come to recognize my Self as the most Selfish person in the world. Why? Because I want, no I crave a life where everyone around me is happy. In my most Selfish state I see a world where everyone is fed, communities thrive, and all the needs for survival are no longer considered a privilege. Mothers and fathers have time for their children, education flows with curiosity, and people aren’t stuck to one job as though it defines them.

And the best part about this Selfish craving… it is absolutely possible. With the advent of AI and so many other incredible advancements, this vision can become a reality. And I am here to share and hold space until it does.

Each individual has the ability to know and appreciate their own beautifully Selfish Self—through the eyes of Creation. To explore their essence, to embrace their natural gifts. To know their Self not as a reflection of societal structures, but as a sovereign being—one who chooses, rather than conforms.

“Yes, I choose to naturally feel good.”

Good is not just a word. It is a destination.

Bringing it Together

Fear is not something to overcome; it is something to be understood. We can never conquer fear, but we can befriend it. We can welcome it into our lives as a natural signal that we want to live—a signal leading us to our own special connection to Creation. Nothing more. Nothing less.

As we reintegrate the messages from our gut, heart, and brain, we calibrate to our uniquely personal truth. The mind stops chasing the opinions of others, no longer grasping at scattered fragments of data that may or may not hold truth. Instead, it turns inward, aligning with the quiet knowing that has always been there.

This is where clarity lives. This is where we find our way. This is where we begin.

If you’re ready to begin this journey—to understand fear, reclaim your sovereignty, and reconnect with your Self—I invite you to explore Self Influencing Kindness: A Simple Process to Feel Good. This book will guide you through the steps of reintegrating your mind, body, and intuition, helping you move beyond fear and into a life of inner trust, choice, and ease. One choice. One breath. One step at a time.

✨ Order your copy today and step into the knowing that has always been yours. ✨

Accessibility and Inclusion

If financial concerns are holding you back from exploring this journey, please know that this space is for you, too. I understand how financial strain can feel like a barrier to personal growth—but it doesn’t have to be. If you’d like to explore this process but are unable to purchase the journal right now, send me an email with the subject line "Free Process," and I will send you a PDF of the full 9-step process as it appears in the book. This will include the Self Influencing Kindness Daily Practice Board, the Day One journal page with guidance, and a standard journal page that can be used repeatedly. You are welcome here, exactly as you are.

Walking This Path Alongside You

For those reading this, I want to share a personal truth. I am in the process of evolving as this philosophy unfolds. I have health challenges—war wounds so to speak—from living within a system of force while seeking to birth a new truth. February 2025 marks the beginning.

At present, beyond the journal, I do not have a structure in place to help as many as I would like. The journal is a valuable tool, but I recognize that many will desire a deeper connection. I do offer one-on-one guidance, but it can only be made available to a select few. I ask for your patience and trust as this unfolds—knowing that together we are shaping something new.

I invite you to stay connected. Join the email list at kindness@selfinfluencing.com. By signing up, you’ll be among the first to receive new insights, resources, and opportunities to deepen this journey. You can also join the movement by clicking the button below. As I build more ways to offer support, I want you to be part of it.